20/07/2017

We need to be kinder to ourselves

I'm back in my target range!

After feeling pretty narked last week for slipping out the top, by just half a pound, I was so determined to get back in it this week.

For those not familiar with how it all works, I have three pounds above and below my target weight to work with each week. If I go out of that range, I have one week to get back in to it before having to pay again. And nobody wants that!

I was a woman on a mission this week, and managed to lose the 1.5lbs that I had put on last week; taking me back into my range.

I am still towards the top end of my target range, so am going to look at working my way down it over the next couple of weeks. But seeing that dip once again, and my red dot being closer to that purple line, makes me feel better.

I was so disappointed last week with not only my gain, but for creeping out of my range. Not just because the previous week I had been voted by my group as Diamond Target Member of the Year, but because I thought I'd had a really good week. And was expecting a loss.

This last week I was determined to lose the weight I put on last week. I really needed to get my head in the game as, admittedly, I'd not been counting my syns and had probably been going over them every day.

Before last week's weigh-in I didn't feel like I had that many body hang-ups, I felt quite happy with how I looked and felt. Afterwards, however, I didn't feel great.

Just knowing I'd had that little gain made me look at myself totally differently. I felt bloated, I felt bigger, I felt horrible. I'd look at myself in the mirror and criticise my reflection, even though I knew, deep down, there really wasn't that much wrong with it.

It's something I think everyone experiences, whether they've lost, or are losing, weight or not. We all are far too critical on ourselves, and we really shouldn't be.

It was discussed in group last night. There's a lovely lady in my group who is struggling a bit at the moment.

My consultant had the best words for her, and the rest of us, to remind us all to be kinder to ourselves. She said we need to remember that if someone said the things we say about ourselves, about someone that we love, we'd be really angry. We'd be upset, we wouldn't stand for it, and we wouldn't let them get away with it. So why is it ok for us to say these things about ourselves? If we wouldn't be happy listening to someone else say horrible things about our family and friends, or even about ourselves, then why should we put ourselves down in that way?

We need to be kinder to ourselves.

There's enough pressure put on us from every aspect of our life. We don't need to put pressure on ourselves, too.

I'm guilty of it, I admit that. I can be my own worst critic, and my biggest doubter. When really, I should be my biggest supporter. I should believe in myself more than anyone else. I should back myself more than anyone else. And I do, some of the time, but I should all of the time.

Last night's group made me realise that. Believing in myself more, supporting myself more, and being less critical of myself is the key to not only learning to love my appearance, but achieving more in life in general.

This is why I love Slimming World. It doesn't just help you lose weight, it helps you look at life more clearly. It is genuinely the best therapy I think you could ever get!

I'll wrap it up now, before I start singing kum-by-ah and expecting everyone to hold hands in a circle.

Here's my food diary from the last seven days. I did forget to fill it in from Friday to Tuesday, so it's probably not as accurate/detailed as it should be. But you get the gist!

I'll aim to do another this week because, as I said, it really helps keep me focused and on track.

Have a good week lovelies! x

You may also like: You're never a failure if you keep trying

This week's food diary:

Thursday:

Breakfast: Porridge (40g for HEB) with semi-skimmed milk (HEA) and raspberries
Snack: Strawberries and clementine
Dinner: Tagliatelle with red onion, passata, tomatoes and spinach.
Tea: Chilli and garlic salmon prawns with new potatoes, asparagus and broccoli
Syns for the day: 0

Friday:

Breakfast: 45% reduced sugar cheerios (40g for HEB)
Dinner: Tagliatelle with red onion, passata, tomatoes and spinach.
Tea: Spaghetti carbonara made using fat free quark and eggs with asparagus.
Snack: 50g raisins (8 syns) with fat free quark.
Syns for the day: 8

Saturday:

Breakfast: None
Dinner: Nando's (approx 25 syns)
Tea: Morrisons The Best salmon, cod and haddock fish cake (2 syns) with new potatoes, broccoli and asparagus.
Syns for the day: Approx 27.

Sunday:

Breakfast: An apple
Dinner: Ham salad sandwich (using two slices of wholemeal bread as HEB) followed by melon, raspberries, carrot batons, and pepper.
Tea: Italian-style turkey steaks with red pesto linguine (2 syns) and tomato, courgette, red onion and spinach.
Syns for the day: 2

Monday:

Breakfast: Fat free quark mixed with passion fruit and topped with strawberries.
Dinner: Ryvita (HEB) with low fat Philadelphia (HEA) and cooked ham, followed by two clementines.
Tea: Spicy sausage pasta - 3 syns for Morrisons Nu Me Cumberland style sausages with courgette, peppers, red onion, garlic, chilli, tomatoes and passata served with pasta twists.
Snack: Mars Ice-cream (7 syns)
Syns for the day: 7

Tuesday:

Breakfast: Fat free quark mixed with passion fruit and topped with strawberries.
Dinner: Spicy sausage pasta - 3 syns for Morrisons Nu Me Cumberland style sausages with courgette, peppers, red onion, garlic, chilli, tomatoes and passata served with pasta twists.
Snack: Two clementines
Tea: Morrisons The Best salmon, cod and haddock fish cake (2 syns) with boiled rice, broccoli and asparagus.
Syns for the day: 5

Wednesday:

Breakfast: Two slices of wholemeal toast (HEB) with Nutella (4 syns) and raspberries
Dinner: Rice and courgette, peppers, red onion, garlic, chilli, tomatoes and passata.
Snack: Strawberries.
Tea: After weigh-in.
Syns for the day: 4

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