A little message to the kids who called me fat today

Tonight I just want to share with you what I encountered on my way home from work, and hopefully reach out to some young girls, and boys, in the process to teach them a little something about body image and body shapes.

So, I was walking home, as I do most nights, and came across some school kids. I'd say, roughly, about 14/15. Obviously they were full of the joys, having just broken up today for summer, and I could hear them before I saw them.

They were on the opposite side of the road to me, there was probably about six of them, a mix of boys and girls.

I could hear them shouting stuff, then realised it was at me.

"Woah she's so fat!!"

"Shit, she's got such a fat arse!"

These were the only two comments I could make out, the rest were (thankfully) drowned out by the traffic.

I had a quick look round, to see if they were shouting at/about someone else, but there was just me.

I couldn't believe it. I was, literally, so shocked.

For one, I actually don't think I am fat. Not being big-headed or anything, but I'm not. I'm 10 and a half stone, I'm a size 8-10, my BMI is slap bang in the middle of healthy - I'm definitely not fat.

Granted, I do have a big bum, but it's definitely not a "fat arse".

The opinions of these pre-pubescent pricks are really no concern to me, I'm not upset or angry or bothered at all that they think I'm fat. I know I'm not, and that's all that matters.

What concerns me is that they think my size/shape is 'fat'. That the teenage girls who were with them think that this isn't a healthy body shape. That having curves and a big bum is classed as 'fat'. Sure, I don't have the body of a Victoria's Secret model, but that's not normal. I haven't got time to work out with a personal trainer three times a day. Hell, who could honestly even be arsed?!

I'm probably carrying a little extra weight at the moment - I'm on my period, a bit bloated etc. - but them kids were wrong, I'm not fat. It's just lucky I know that, and they didn't shout it to someone really insecure or someone with a complex about their size.

Those girls shouldn't be striving to look like the girls that magazines tell us are skinny. Who aren't actually real, they're air brushed. They should strive to be normal, curvy, happy.

And they really should think about the consequences of their words. Because their words could've had a detrimental effect on me. I'm almost 25, I'm a grown woman now. I don't care what silly little children or snotty nosed teenagers who are on a high about breaking up from school say or think. But others may not be in the same head space as me.

So please, always think before you say unkind words to others. Even if you think someone is a bit chubby, you don't need to say it. They may be totally happy as they are. You don't know what anyone is going through in their private lives. The battles anyone is fighting behind closed doors. There's no need to shout and humiliate anyone in any situation. About anything: their looks, their size, their dress sense, their hair... Anything.

And, FYI, I ain't fat. I took these photos when I got home. Yep, I'm hippy and have a big bum, but I am not fat. I'm happy, healthy and actually pretty hungry right now cos I've not had my tea yet.

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